Deputy Principal's message
The Power of Positive Parent Partnerships
Several years ago, in a different educational setting, I met with two parents regarding a typical school disciplinary matter involving their child. Understandably, a range of emotions surfaced including anger, frustration, and disappointment as we discussed various aspects of the event and the consequences that followed.
At a pivotal moment in the discussion, I felt the prompting to ask the parent, “But do you trust us?” In other words, “Do you trust the teachers, the leaders, the culture of our school, and our values?” It was a risky question. I’m the first to acknowledge that we don’t always get things right. However, I had a quiet confidence that, having had their children in the school for some time, these parents believed in the school’s vision and mission and trusted that teachers, to the best of their ability, had positive intentions toward their family.
The parent paused and responded thoughtfully, “We do. But how can we build more trust?”
One phrase in our Maranatha vision states that we are a Christian learning community in “partnership with home…”
While this phrase may be easy to overlook in the broader vision, it holds profound significance and should not be underestimated.
Research consistently shows that one of the most effective ways to support a child’s learning is through strong and positive partnerships between home and school. Where this partnership exists, children tend to have better attendance, feel more positive about school, perform better academically, and develop healthier social skills by observing respectful interactions between school staff and parents. Ultimately, this leads to improved social, emotional, and physical wellbeing.
In his book Principled, Paul Browning highlights that trust lies at the heart of individual, collective, and organisational wellbeing. It is also at the heart of these vital parent partnerships. Trust grows when communication is open, relationships are respectful, and everyone works together with the shared goal of seeing children flourish academically, emotionally, socially, and spiritually.
To answer the parent's question, I spent time reflecting on simple but powerful ways parents can strengthen their connection with the school community—ways that build trust, collaboration, and mutual respect. While there are many, here are my top ten:
- Assume positive intent.
As a parent, I know I don’t always parent perfectly. Similarly, teachers may not always get things perfectly either. You can be confident, however, that they have your child’s best interests at heart. I encourage you to approach interactions with that belief. - Listen to understand.
Teachers usually have a well-rounded understanding of situations, having spoken with everyone involved. Take time to listen carefully and seek to understand the school’s perspective before responding. Parents typically see only their own child’s experience, while teachers balance the needs of many students. Trust that teachers hold a broader (and at times confidential) view. - Use respectful language.
Even when emotions are high, calm and respectful dialogue keeps conversations productive. This expectation applies to staff as well. - Model positive partnerships.
It is important that school staff speak positively to students about your family and encourage positive family dynamics. In turn, speaking respectfully about the school in front of your child models what healthy partnerships look like. This does not mean you will always agree with school decisions, but affirming teachers and the school in your child’s presence has a powerful impact on their sense of security and wellbeing. - Support school processes.
Follow the school’s communication channels, policies, and procedures. This promotes fairness, clarity, and shared understanding. - Celebrate the positives.
I can still recall times someone told me I was doing a good job as a dad. These have stayed with me, perhaps because parenting can feel uncertain at times. I hope teachers are also encouraging you in your parenting journey. Similarly, teachers deeply value your support and encouragement. Take time to thank them when you notice something great happening; it makes a big difference. - Partner in problem-solving.
When challenges arise, children thrive when they see their parents and teachers working as a team to support them. - Encourage your child’s responsibility.
Growth isn’t always easy. Teachers aim to nurture independence and resilience in students. Support your child by helping them navigate challenges rather than solving problems for them. - Pray for our school community.
As a Christian community, let’s commit to praying for one another, asking God for wisdom, unity, and grace in all relationships. Supporting young people through these formative years is no easy task, but we are in this mission together. - Share feedback constructively.
When offering feedback, focus on solutions and be open to honest, respectful conversation. Reserve emails for sharing information—not for resolving conflict.
When we engage with humility, respect, and a shared sense of purpose, we help cultivate a culture where students feel safe, valued, and ready to learn.
Inspired by the Raising Children Network.